6 November 2013

Swimming with the Fish

Hello all,

I thought that I would fill you in on what has been happening with my new quest into online dating.

Having been out of the dating game for a good while (read too scared to put myself out there previously, what an idiot) I decided to finally bite the bullet and give online dating a whirl with Plenty of Fish.  To be honest I am not really sure what I expected, well apart from a date obviously.

The first thing I noticed was that I got messages, a fair decent amount of messages which made me want to fall down in shock as I wasn’t expecting any.  Quite a good boost for the old self confidence thing which obviously needed kick starting given that I thought I would hear from no one.

Now I’ve got a little more used to the site and the type of people on there I am getting more of a sense of who to respond to and what people are like.

95% of the messages I receive contain nothing more than “Hi” or if I’m really lucky “Wot you up 2?”.  Those don’t get a reply.  If you have read someone’s profile and all you can come up with is “Hi” I really don’t want to know.   

Half of me thinks that I am being a cow for not replying to those messages, after all they have made a first move by messaging me.  Then I think though, if I message someone, I take the time to read their profile and try and say something half interesting; so I expect the same back really.

I have also learnt to weed out the people who are clearly just after one night stands and those who think that I am a fetish (fuck right off mister).

Anyhow…….  95% of non messages and 3% of sex or fetish messages aside and what have I found?

The answer is potential.  I am now chatting to a few people and at least a couple of those I think I might actually meet up with.   Shock, horror!!!  Girl goes on date from a dating website, who would have thought?!?

If I do get to that point you may well be seeing a “What the bloody hell do I wear post” from me.  So I will keep you posted!


  1. Oooh, hope it all goes well, my sister is on the same site, shes been giving me all the details of the many weirdos on there, but I'm sure there's a few good ones, like you said, just need to weed them out. But as I told her, you only need to find one good one!

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    1. Hi! That is very true, you only need one! I have followed you on Bloglovin' x

  2. One of my friends signed me up to POF but we could not get our heads around it. I'm on OkCupid but like you most messages only say hi, or they're simply just after sex. I always find that the people I message either never reply or are complete let downs and just really boring x


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