You will have to forgive me. This is a 12am post. So not thought out, not rewritten or checked for confused sentences. Just me. Talking. Panicking a little.
I have been very lazy of late when it comes to talking about body confidence on this blog. That is something I am not happy about, because it is SO important to me.
As a fat woman, I have had a great year in terms of body confidence. In truth, there has been so much going on in my life that it hasn't crossed my mind that much. Proof of just how far I have come.
Sure, I have momentary relapses, curled into myself when I have received derogatory comments, noticed the stares that were not complementary; but they have paled into insignificance with what has been going on with my life. Mostly downs to be honest, for the past couple of years, although now, I am starting to see the sunshine again.
But, my midnight crisis confidence,
I am a little scared. A lot unsure.
I recently signed up for a year long thermal spa experience. 8 times a year which does wonders for relaxation. So far, it has been with family and friends. The spa is fabulous and although mixed sexes, I have, in the most part, felt comfortable in myself and ok with walking around in my swimsuit around others. A good thing.
A couple of weeks ago I decided that I needed some spa time. Just me. Floating around in the jucazzi, staring at the stars in the ceiling in the dark relaxation swimming pool. Perfect. I booked my solo appointment, for tomorrow; without much of a thought, except for excitement of having a lovely couple of hours chilling out.
But, suddenly, the day has come. The thought of walking around, on my own, in a mixed thermal spa experience in my swimsuit, terrifies me. Do I feel any less because of who I am and what I look like? No. Do I take a scared breath at the thought of others looking at me, with judgemental eyes (as is inevitable at a spa from both sexes); yes. A lot.
My safety blanket of a friend being there is not there. I did not realise until tonight just how much I relied on someone else being there. Someone to talk to when you see a judgemental stare, a derogatory glance. I will exposed. Nowhere to hide my insecurity.
So will I be the fat woman alone in the spa, hiding in the dark relaxation pool for cover, or will I be the woman who doesn't care, sitting in the jacuzzi actually enjoying some me time. I don't know yet.
This is a far bigger step than I ever realised. All safety nets gone. Exposed. Alone, In one way I am excited. Confident that I can meet this challenge ahead. In another, I am so scared.
I am not the person that is able to talk easily with strangers. I am odd. I am going to be the fat woman alone in her swimsuit. Experience tells me that this is not going to be easy. But I am more than just my body.
So send me your steely looks. Your don't give a fuck attitude. Your "yes I am fat woman in a swimsuit" confidence.
My screw you confidence may be waning today, but my stubborn "I will not hide" attitude is still full throttle.
I am scared, as hell actually now I think about it, but I will do this.