15 January 2015

Where is the Love?

So, I just finished watching Cyberbully.

If there is one thing that I have learned being online it is that no matter who you are, what you do, what you look like and what you say, someone will always find a reason to send hate your way.  Not because you are fat, thin; happy; sad; successful; or down on your luck but because they are looking for their next victim and are trying you on for size.

This line from The Breakfast Club springs to mind and still rings true today:

Whether you are a teenager getting hassle from bullies at school, a blogger sharing your thoughts and photographs online or an actress who gets her stolen naked pictures made viral; someone who wants to hurt you will find a way to creep into your heart and afflict hurt.

So what do we do about it?  You cannot stop trolls.  A trolls is like a hydra, but on the internet.  Cut off one head and two more shall take it's place. 

I have had a small sharing of trolls.  On my pictures, on my blog; all pathetic creatures who have only one aim: to hurt me.  Having known how it feels to receive it, I cannot even imagine what a sustained onslaught would be like.

So again I say: what do we do about it?  My small part is this.  From now on, whenever I see someone who has been trolled, bullied or made to feel less than what they are online, I am going to send them love.  Whether I know them or not.  Just a simple message telling them that they are worth more than the troll who is feeding on them.

Will it stops the trolls?  Of course not.  But will it make that person feel better?  Maybe.  I know that it has for me in the past when people have sent me messages of love when I have received hate.  It helped.  It really helped.

All I do know is that I would rather send something positive than look, think "Oh no that's awful" and then scroll past.  Love is more powerful than hate. 

Whilst I may not know what a torrent of abuse feels like, and don't pretend that I do; what I do know is what is feels like when you are surrounded by a black cloud.  You feel like you are all alone, lost in a fog you cannot except from. But then sometimes, someone, even from the most unexpected place turns a tiny light on, and suddenly you have a new place to look, a new focus.

Anyone fancy joining me?


  1. Lovely post and totally inspirational - of course I will Join you - Everyone should x

  2. Fantastic post! As someone who has only just started blogging this week, I have to admit my experience with "trolls" is non-existent. However, when/if it happens, I'm going to take a leaf out of your book!!
    Fantastic reading, and brilliant advice!

  3. I will never understand what makes people behave in this manner I'm sure that most of them wouldn't walk up to someone in the street and say horrible things! I have been very lucky so far to have not been targeted, but yes I agree always counter the negative with positivity and love xx

  4. Way to go for taking action! I honestly believe that those who bully others are not happy with themselves therefore they feel the need to make someone else's life miserable. Luckily for me I have not been a victim of cyber bullying or any bullying at all but I am friends with people who have been. I loathe when others try to make someone feel inferior or like they're not worth it. I'm definitely for spreading love.

    XO | EESH

  5. What a gorgeous idea. As someone who gets relentlessly trolled, even one nice note/comment/tweet can turn a whole day around.

  6. super idea!!! Yes, I read a blog of a lovely girl who is a former bullimic. I really like her, she's a nice person, she's kooky and very opinionated but my blood boils when I read all the really, really, really evil and nasty comments she gets left- they are simply terrible. She disabled comments for a while now but I always used to leave her nice messages.

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