Been a while since I did a wishlist post. Here are some of my current favourites.
2 February 2015
29 January 2015
Inspiration on your Wall
Sometimes we all need a bit of
inspiration in our lives. A reminder to
live our lives the way that we want to, be who we want to be and embrace
ourselves for who we are.
When I search for inspiration on
the internet, the best quotes that I find are always more truth than
inspiration. They tell you what, in your
heart, you already know. You just have
to sift through what society has indoctrinated you to think to find that truth.
My favourite quote, and one which
I always remember is from Maya Angelou:
"If you are always trying to
be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be".
The reminder to yourself that the
best version of yourself is being exactly who you are, without trying to change
yourself to meet other's expectations.
I was recently contacted by
StressFreePrint and was asked if I would like to create my own inspirational
quote poster. I wanted something simple
that would give me inspiration when I first wake up in the morning. I decided to go with this:
Enter below!!
27 January 2015
A Letter to the 15 Year Old Me
Bit of a wordy one this.
Your life is a journey that each
of us takes. The only certainties are
the beginning and the end. The path that
takes you there differs for everyone and the path is of our own choosing.
In many ways, that path starts in
our teenage years. The choices we make,
the people who we decide to be and the influences around us all fit together to
formulate the future person.
When I was a teenager, I was so
worried about what people thought of me. I wanted so desperately to fit in. I would change myself in order to fit in with
what was required. I was convinced that
I was not good enough as I was.
I have seen many people write
letters to their former selves; giving tips and reassurances about the people
that they will become. Today I am
writing that note to the past me, who still lingers in the halls of my memory.
To Me, Age 15
From Me, Age 35
You Don't Need to Change Yourself
One of the biggest lessons that
you will learn is that is ok to be yourself.
As soon as you allow yourself to embrace who you are, happiness
comes. The people around you: your family,
your friends, they already see the real you and they love you.
When you eventually let out that
person who at the moment only exists in private, you will discover that people
have been waiting for this to happen for years.
She will grow in so many ways
once you let her out of the cupboard.
You will find it impossible to believe, but in twenty years time you
will have a blog, you will write part time, you will be a feminist. You will have opinions and be passionate
about them. You will be strong. You will be happy.
You Will Still Be Fat (but you will be ok with that)
Will it destroy you to know that
in twenty years you will still be fat?
At the moment you just want to fit in and be attractive to boys. Underneath a lot of layers you don't, admit
it, actually mind the way that you look, but you are too preoccupied with
what other people are telling you that you should look like, that you are
ignoring yourself.
One day you will realise that you
like the way that you look. That it does
not matter what other people think. You
are going to run a plus size fashion blog one day. You will be addicted to busy patterns and
dresses. Do not shake your head in
disbelief, it is true. You will be
happy.
A Boy
One day, not too many years from
now, you will meet a boy. To be with
him will feel like the sun is shining on you.
I have one word of advice. Run.
You may think you are in the
sunshine, but what you will realise when things end like the explosion of a
bomb, is that you were not bathing in sunlight; you were deluded and hidden
away in the shadows. You deserve better
than that. You will move on and a lesson
will have been learned. You will be
happy.
Things to Remember
You have a strong will, use
it. There is confidence in there,
embrace it. You can write, do it. You deserve love. Don't wait for x, y and z to happen, just go out and live. Say yes more. Do not let fear concur you. Buy those red shoes.
I will end this with a quote which means a lot to me these days.
"You are enough.
Not because you not
because you did or said or bought or thought
or
became or created something special,
but
because you always were."
You
will be happy.
15 January 2015
Where is the Love?
So, I just finished watching Cyberbully.
If there is one thing that I have learned being online it is that no matter who you are, what you do, what you look like and what you say, someone will always find a reason to send hate your way. Not because you are fat, thin; happy; sad; successful; or down on your luck but because they are looking for their next victim and are trying you on for size.
This line from The Breakfast Club springs to mind and still rings true today:
Whether you are a teenager getting hassle from bullies at school, a blogger sharing your thoughts and photographs online or an actress who gets her stolen naked pictures made viral; someone who wants to hurt you will find a way to creep into your heart and afflict hurt.
So what do we do about it? You cannot stop trolls. A trolls is like a hydra, but on the internet. Cut off one head and two more shall take it's place.
I have had a small sharing of trolls. On my pictures, on my blog; all pathetic creatures who have only one aim: to hurt me. Having known how it feels to receive it, I cannot even imagine what a sustained onslaught would be like.
So again I say: what do we do about it? My small part is this. From now on, whenever I see someone who has been trolled, bullied or made to feel less than what they are online, I am going to send them love. Whether I know them or not. Just a simple message telling them that they are worth more than the troll who is feeding on them.
Will it stops the trolls? Of course not. But will it make that person feel better? Maybe. I know that it has for me in the past when people have sent me messages of love when I have received hate. It helped. It really helped.
All I do know is that I would rather send something positive than look, think "Oh no that's awful" and then scroll past. Love is more powerful than hate.
All I do know is that I would rather send something positive than look, think "Oh no that's awful" and then scroll past. Love is more powerful than hate.
Whilst I may not know what a torrent of abuse feels like, and don't pretend that I do; what I do know is what is feels like when you are surrounded by a black cloud. You feel like you are all alone, lost in a fog you cannot except from. But then sometimes, someone, even from the most unexpected place turns a tiny light on, and suddenly you have a new place to look, a new focus.
Anyone fancy joining me?
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