I thought that I would fill you in on what has been happening with my new quest into online dating.
Having been out of the dating game for a good while (read too scared to put myself out there previously, what an idiot) I decided to finally bite the bullet and give online dating a whirl with Plenty of Fish. To be honest I am not really sure what I expected, well apart from a date obviously.
The first thing I noticed was that I got messages, a fair decent amount of messages which made me want to fall down in shock as I wasn’t expecting any. Quite a good boost for the old self confidence thing which obviously needed kick starting given that I thought I would hear from no one.
Now I’ve got a little more used to the site and the type of people on there I am getting more of a sense of who to respond to and what people are like.
95% of the messages I receive contain nothing more than “Hi” or if I’m really lucky “Wot you up 2?”. Those don’t get a reply. If you have read someone’s profile and all you can come up with is “Hi” I really don’t want to know.
Half of me thinks that I am being a cow for not replying to those messages, after all they have made a first move by messaging me. Then I think though, if I message someone, I take the time to read their profile and try and say something half interesting; so I expect the same back really.
I have also learnt to weed out the people who are clearly just after one night stands and those who think that I am a fetish (fuck right off mister).
Anyhow……. 95% of non messages and 3% of sex or fetish messages aside and what have I found?
The answer is potential. I am now chatting to a few people and at least a couple of those I think I might actually meet up with. Shock, horror!!! Girl goes on date from a dating website, who would have thought?!?
If I do get to that point you may well be seeing a “What the bloody hell do I wear post” from me. So I will keep you posted!