28 July 2013

Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones

Day 25, Saturday: Something someone told you about yourself that you'll never forget (good or bad)


At the ripe old age of 34, I feel that I know myself pretty well. I have good and bad traits just like anyone else and I try my best to work at the bad ones.

During a, let’s say parting of ways, with a friend he told me that I was an immoral and a two faced person. At the time and for a good while afterwards this really hurt me as I don’t honestly believe that I am either of those things, but the fact that those words were chosen completely made me question myself and the way I act to others.

My friends mean the absolute world to me and I have always tried my ultimate best to be a good friend.

Eventually I was convinced by the people closest to me that what he said wasn’t true, and that it was more intended probably to hurt me than anything else. Which was a success because it did really hurt me and is something I won’t forget.

What I ended up realising is that whilst I have changed a lot from the person he used to know, all my steps have been in relation to moving forward and having confidence to be the person that I am.  He was changing himself to be the person he thought that someone else wanted. He isn’t the person I used to know either.

I didn’t hurl abuse back and didn’t say the things I wanted.  I won’t now either.  The friendship may be over but I know that on my part it was ended with dignity and not insult and name calling. 

I may always remember it, because it marked the end of a friendship spanning over 15 years, but the words no longer hurt me.  I don’t believe in looking back anymore.


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2 comments:

  1. I'm sorry that this happened to you; you really didn't deserve to be talked to like that and left to question yourself. From reading your blog and your tweets, I don't think you seem like an immoral or two-faced person- in fact I'd say quite the opposite- and a real friend would never say that you were. A real friend wouldn't want to throw away fifteen years of friendship over nothing. If he's changing for somebody else, he must be quite an insecure person. I hope he comes to his senses and apologises to you. If not, don't worry. It's his loss, not yours! xx

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    1. It made me sad just how desperate he was to make sure that the other party liked everything about him. It is a real shame as we were amazing friends until that point, but everything changes and like you say, his loss not mine. Thanks Louise xx

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